Women and Men at Earthaven

As women and men at Earthaven, we share a passion for the movement from a violent, fear-based dominator culture to a collaborative, love-based partnership culture. Within this context, there are many ways individuals are breaking down traditional “roles” that the conditioning of our present mainstream culture has placed on us. Many of these changes revolve around feminsm, gender roles, interpersonal communication, and sexual preference.

Here, men and women share various tasks and activities based on their interest and desires, not what they are “supposed” to do. It is not uncommon to see women slinging wood mauls or digging ditches, while men may be wearing skirts, dancing, or leading intimacy workshops. Of course, some women enjoy cooking, mothering, gardening . . . and some men choose to work with carpentry or forestry. We do not want to be intolerant in any direction.

Expanding beyond narrow societally-defined gender roles, we encourage ourselves and one another to express who we truly are. So whether a person is female or male, we have a wide range of expression open to each of us–from what we wear and the work we choose, to our interpersonal communication styles and choice of partners. We want both our children and our adults, to feel “free to be you and me”!

Over the years at Earthaven, there have been hundreds of women’s and men’s circles, as we value these opportunities to raise consciousness. We find these gatherings meet needs for connection and understanding–of ourselves and one another.

At Earthaven, there are straight and gay/lesbian couples, queer folk, monogamous marriages, sweethearts, and many other creative manifestations of what our intimate relationships can look like. With an attitude of tolerance and curiosity, we hope to foster a safe place for vibrant and alternative relationship dynamics to grow.

Of course, there is always more room for growth, education, and acknowledging the hidden prejudices we all carry within. For years, many of us have longed to be a more racially diverse community, and we’ve been delighted when several African-American families have been involved with the community. We notice that there are both seen and unseen challenges to overcoming deep cultural barriers, and appreciate the opportunities to explore how to be true allies as we honor the similarities and differences of our experiences across lines of color, race, ethnicity, and culture.

So what will you find here at Earthaven? Women and men being typical of women and men everywhere, yet also highly creative and experimental in thought and action. Support exists here for traditional families and non-traditional relationships, and the expectation that the two will co-exist side by side. It is especially when we travel into the mainstream that we return with renewed appreciation for how much room to grow and be truly ourselves Earthaven culture allows us!