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Healthy Relationships

I believe many of us desire healthy, engaged, dynamic, alive, and supportive relationships.

I know that I do.

I’ve noticed that when I have a strong sense of self and can name what I want and need, things tend to go better in my relationships.

And yet, I still do those all too human things, like abandon myself or hide myself from others or live in less than my fullest truth.

But more and more, I’m beginning to understand that presence with myself and ongoing self-discovery are the recipe for having solid relationships around me.

One of the tools I use to understand myself is nonviolent communication, also called NVC. It’s an entire framework and way of seeing the world that includes understanding my own and other people’s feelings and needs. Not only how best to become aware of those things, but how to communicate about them.

That might sound easy but I think I could dedicate the rest of my life to this study and still have far to go.

This year, July 15-18, we will spend four days together geeking out in an event we call Compassion Camp because it explores the tenants of compassionate communication. Join us to explore the many ways we can approach healthy relating with self and others. For more information and to register, see our website.

Check out these photos from our last two camps in 2018 and 2019.

I hope to see you at Compassion Camp.

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NikiAnne Feinberg

NikiAnne (she/her) was born and raised on a horse and cattle ranch on the ancestral lands of the Salinan people in the Central Coast of California. She currently lives at Earthaven Ecovillage on unceded lands of the Catawba and Cherokee (Tsalagi) people. Her ancestors come from Eastern and Western Europe — France, Germany, and English Isles as well as Belarus, Lithuania, and Russia, from Ashkenazi Jewish heritage. Throughout the last two decades, NikiAnne has been immersed in community and in service to a wide range of educational endeavors focused on nature connection, personal empowerment, and community resilience. NikiAnne considers herself the grease and glue – that which helps things run smoothly or holds things together. Before co-founding SOIL in 2012, she worked and traveled through much of Asia, the Americas, and Europe, which made her formal education at George Washington University in International Affairs come alive in ways that can only happen through personal experience and relationships. Collectively, these experiences have undeniably shaped her cooperative cultural values and commitment to supporting leaders to think, feel, act and design from a foundation rooted in interrelationship. No matter what she’s teaching, NikiAnne is always on the same mission: to raise awareness of our whole selves – gifts, passions, blind spots, shadows – and help those whole selves find and fill niches in their communities. This is how the web of life is woven, and the fabric of culture repaired. She’s especially eager to support those in transition – between vocations, stages of life, and stories of world and self. Within this context, she is particularly passionate about community grief tending and death care midwifery.

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